Most of the people I know are either stagnating because they don't put themselves in a situation where they need to grow, or they put themselves in the courses and seminars and coaching programs to grow, but they don't grow because ...
Well, what comes after that because is what this article is about.
I was in Landmark Education for 20 years, and I went from seminar to seminar, from course to course, from training program to training program.
In the past three years I probably have done 20 programs, seminars, coaching programs... But only 3 in the past year. What happened?
Good question. I grew.
Very much the way you grow a muscle (especially if you are a body builder), one day you use/overuse a muscle, the next day you allow it to rest, and then do it again.
People that follow the pattern I followed for the 22 years leading up to this year, when I actually grew, actually NEVER grow. They use seminars as a way to avoid actually growing. I was guilty of this, myself. Secretly, in my heart, I knew that my parents were right, that no matter what I did, I would not amount to anything.
A year ago this all changed. I met this amazing woman, Pam Ragland, in a coaching program, where we were both students, ha-ha, how ironic. We struck up a conversation and she said that she can wipe away all my negative thoughts. I was desperate for my negative thougths to go away. Living with the pretense, that some day I was going to use all I learned... while that one day never came, was horrible.
I booked her for a private session, and from that one session I suddenly saw that maybe I was wrong, and maybe there is something I could do with my life. And, to my surprise, I found myself in action. That is when I saw how passionate I am about speakers' success, and how much I would like to teach speakers to be effective at this craft.
Later I enrolled in Pam's eight-month program that teaches how to drive this new me, that is now a Ferrari instead of a jalope.
I never doubted again that I can do it. I stopped going to seminars, I even cancelled two seminars I fully paid for. I am working, but I am working purposefully. Much like I used to work on a puzzle when I had the box showing the finished picture... fully knowing that all the pieces are there, and it only takes time to put it all together.
I can tell you, a dream life begins with that box cover... and that certainty. Some people can see it themselves, some people are lucky: some committed coach sees it for them. I am that kind of coach. I have never had a client that did not accomplish what I saw possible for them (boxcover).
Are you still going to all the seminars, reading all the books, buying all the programs, but the results you can show for all that learning are meager to say the least?
The natural way to grow, is to grow in spurts, and then consolidate. Grow intensely, and then harvest the benefits (use the knowledge) until the growth almost starts to slow down. The start it all over again.