When and How You Should Argue with Your Coach?

This is important, and I hope everyone gets it.

As a coach, I often experience people taking my remarks as criticism, and are compelled to protect or defend themselves. I normally "fire them" as clients. Why? Because they are missing the point. And I am not about wasting my "Light" on black holes...

You hire a coach to point out what they can see from their point of view.

What is their point of view?

That is immaterial. The only thing that matters is that their point of view is not the same as yours, because their eyes (view... get it?) is not behind YOUR eyeballs.

When you are defending what you are doing, you are arguing for staying the same with the exact same results you have gotten thus far.

When you are willing, for a moment, to look and see what the other person is seeing, you are creating the possibility of a future, discontinuous from where your future has headed before this moment.

If my takeaway from this whole 8-week program that cost $1000 were ONLY that I should ask myself a question every time I set up an item on my todo list: "How is this going to make me money?" I would have gotten my money's worth. And more.

Often just asking this question will lead to multiples of that thousand bucks, and I have the opportunity to ask that question 4 times a day!

This is where millionaires are made, in these questions, and in the moments when a coach interferes with your "already always" way of looking at life and doing things.

Your job is to listen and look. And if you are a hotheaded Hungarian/Israeli/New Yorker, like me, you can curse under your breath, but look, nevertheless, and NEVER argue with a coach. It doesn't hurt them, it hurts YOU.

Merry Christmas.
Sophie

How To Melt an 800K Debt? Begin it like this...

I am reading Abraham/Hicks: The Power of Deliberate Creation

Although the though underlying this book is quite simple, if you look with knowing eyes, if your eyes are not the "knowing" types, it is going to be quite a challenge to follow the thought process that changes you from a wannabe to an owner and a doer of your desires.

What? My thoughts are positive... you say, and you prove it to me by saying: I am happy, I am great... but yet, your life proves just the opposite.

Your life is a mirror of your dominant thoughts and beliefs... and that is that. You don't have to look what your thoughts and beliefs are in your head, you can just look outside.

Now, how come that even people who know this haven't been able to move from misery to bliss?

There is a little hidden truth that is not as known as it could be, because our MacDonalds way of thinking drowns it out.

Truth #1: You can get from where you are to where you want to be, even if it is three thousand miles from you.

Truth #2: You can't get there in one jump, or even in two.

Truth #3: You can get from point A to point B to point C easily... but you can't get from A to Z in one jump.

So what are you saying, Sophie, you are confusing me...

Am I? If you are 80K in depth, it won't disappear at once. If you are 800K in depth... that won't disappear at once.

Both are your point A, and your job is to get to point B first.

But I don't mean start paying off your lowest debt first... though it is not a bad idea. I mean first take yourself from a vibrational state where you will continue repel money coming to you and debt rushing to you to a vibrational/emotional state where the mood and feeling of your emotion is slightly gentler and higher than it is now.

Imagine yourself 800K in debt. Can you? For me it is easier to imagine being in debt 10K... but that's me: I have no debt. So 10K would mean for me: deep in debt.

Now look at your thoughts: will you find that there is a great despair and hopelessness under all your hopeful and cheerful words of pretense optimism?

So what would be point B of a situation like that?

I have one that I can think of: 800K is like 10K... once the ice cap starts to melt the whole iceberg is ready to go, unless I start adding to it...

Now, that is not such a bad thought, is it? It talks about something that gives you a glimmer of hope that can't be denied. but, you say, I will probably first need to add to that mountain before I can melt it...

Well, how about (and this will be point C! Pay attention!) if I start building a big fire and to build it and I still add to the iceberg temporarily, it still is the beginning of the end of the iceberg: because a big fire can melt any size of iceberg... so I am home free, right?

Do you see that I am starting to take responsibility for the solution instead of watching that mountain grow and feel incapacitated and incapable to make a dent in it?

Well, this is the Deliberate Creation of Abraham/Hicks, and it is wonderful, and it is gentle, and it works.

Here is an article I found: it is good, and it looks yet another way to increase your vibration to match what you want just a little better.

Think Like An Optimist

Many experts will tell you that when you change the way you look at things, you will change your life – and it’s true. If you’re sitting around expecting the worst of things, you’ll be certain to find the worst of things. You’ll find all of your mistakes along the way to your goals. You’ll notice all of the problems with your plan. And then you’ll stop trying because you’ve noticed that everything is going wrong.

This is where a lot of people fumble on the way to their happiness and the changes that they want to make. By trying so hard to recognize the bad things in their life, they forget about those things that are working well.

For just one day, try to see your life through the eyes of an optimist – a complete optimist. This might seem silly at first, but what you’re doing is bringing another perspective, an objective perspective into your view of the world.

Optimists look at the world as though it only has good things to offer and in that thinking, they see the opportunities for learning and growth, rather than the obstacles in their way. Instead of getting upset about the car that cut them off in traffic, they hope that there wasn’t an emergency that caused the driver to need to go so fast.

Optimism takes practice. What you might want to do is start thinking about your life as though it were the life of a good friend that you have. When you sense that something is wrong in your day, try to change your thinking to being more positive. For example, when your friend loses his or her job, you don’t tell her that it was because they were the worst employee (though you might tell yourself this), you tell them that it wasn’t their fault and that there must have been another reason.

When you start treating yourself and your life the way that you would treat a good friend, you start to see possibility in life, rather than problems.

An optimist is simply someone that strives to look for the good in everything. Just for today, you can try to do the same. Is it a realistic way to be every day? Who knows? But what you are doing is allowing your life to be as wonderful as you want it to be, and maybe as wonderful as it already is. You just weren’t looking for it.

Internet Marketing Case Study Part 1

Let me start with a little story:

There was once a farmer who had a donkey. The donkey was a real pain, it kicked and it bit...
One day the donkey fell into a well that was not in use.
The farmer tried to pull up the donkey from the well, but he did not succeed. He called for help and a few of his neighbors came, but even together they could not pull out the poor donkey.
The farmer had a change of heart and decided that the donkey was old, and it had only been trouble, so they will be all better off if they just bury the donkey. They will get rid of the old well and the donkey at the same time.
So they started to fill the well with dirt, one shovelful at a time.
The donkey, every time the dirt hit his back, shook himself and stepped up a little, on the top of the dirt. After half an hour or so, to the amazement of the farmers, the donkey stepped out of the hole and ran away. But before he ran, he bit the farmer well.
This story will play out well... in the following case study.

I will be painfully honest in this series of articles. It will be painful to me, because I will be admitting to some of my weaknesses. And it may be painful to some other marketer, who I decided not to mention by name, but he will recognize himself.

Now, the painful part: I have been in internet marketing, unconsciously and consciously, for 12-13 years.

I started by turning an offline wildly successful local magazine into an online venture, mainly because 1. printing was too expensive, 2. my health didn't make it easy for me to work that hard any longer, go to clubs, deliver magazines, go, go, go, work work work.

I didn't know I was in marketing. I was a publisher. I didn't know my main job was marketing, so I knew nothing about marketing. I did some stuff that I now consider marketing, but then... I didn't even have the word. I thought marketing was focus groups, and I despised that then.

So I didn't make any money, and only after quite a few years I started to make a full time income. By full time I mean I could pay the bills and eat. I mean I didn't have to have another job.

About five years ago I heard the word marketing in a different context, and this time it sounded like that is maybe what I should be doing... if I knew how to do it.

I started to study, but could not see how it applied to what I was already doing.

I learned that if I could build a mailing list, I could start to make more money than just paying the bills.

I met Tellman at the Underground Internet Marketing Seminar at breakfast, and shared with him. When he found out what kind of traffic my site had, he went ballistic. He was sure I was sitting on a million dollar goldmine. Everyone had always thought that, but all I could eke out is a meager living.

He told me exactly how to build a mailing list, then went his merry way. I tried. I failed at it.

I hired this coach for six months, that coach for six months... some increase, but still no mailing list.

Then I had a brainstorm, and managed to build a list of 278, fans, lovers of what I had to say, not buyers.

By that time I was successful with affiliate marketing in the self-improvement field, became good at ppc, could teach what to do (like a good basketball coach... not good at throwing baskets, lol), still no list.

In July of this year I took on a fellow bumbling, fumbling wannabe. I spoke authoritatively, so she trusted that I'll be able to guide her to make money.

She had few skills, little knowledge, so I decided that I'll teach her, but I'll use the energy of the relationship to fuel me to get through the stopping points, the rough spots, the walls I hadn't been able to go through. I wanted to scale high walls, I wanted to jump over big canyons... I wanted to become the basketball coach who can throw baskets. I wanted to become the internet marketing coach that made money doing internet marketing.

Continued in Part 2