Black Friday or how to get yourself into trouble


It's Black Friday. Now, don't ask me to tell you why it is called Black Friday: I don't know and I don't want to know.

What I do know is that today I experienced something that you want to hear, you want to learn from, today, and the rest of the year, black, pink red, blue days... any day.

Ok, a little background information: I normally don't read my emails. I normally keep myself walled away in blissful ignorance of what's hot, what I should buy, launches and the like. Not today.

For some reason, maybe because I decided to stay at home, alone, for Thanksgiving, I left myself wide open to the onslaught of marketing messages you probably get every day, including this very day.

I have chosen only two messages to read and follow up, which is not what most people do, and those two messages pushed me into a state that made me intensely curious and made me want to write this blogpost.

I have fallen a "I will never amount to anything" mood. I have fallen into a place, where those marketers have it, and I have nothing. Where all the answers to my problems are out there, with those marketers, and if I don't get it, or even if I do, I am doomed.

Not a pretty picture, is it? Now, if this had happened a year ago, I would have thought that it is personal. Because a year ago I was coaching a few people, but I wasn't in the position to see people, over time, 3-4 times a week, with their moods, with their ambitions and trials and tribulations. Now, I am.

And what I am seeing is that this is normal.

The marketing messages are designed this way. The marketing messages want you to think that "they" have the solution that you need, and that without them you are nothing, a hopeless wannabe, better off burying yourself off into some sandy dune...

Is this new? Probably not entirely new. Probably many of my past purchases have come from this same place: I remember when I spent my rent money on Frank Kern's Mind Control. Or The apprentice program. Or Smarts...

All of them proved to be not so inevitable to my success, in fact they did nothing for me. NOT A THING!

But, of course, this is a lot like gambling: hope is eternal, and you are hoping that this time it will be true, this time it will solve all my problems I didn't know I had.

And that last sentence is really key: skillful copy writing, skillful mind control, will create problems that you didn't know you had so that you can buy the exact solution to that problem that doesn't exist other than in your mind, now that you were told that you have that problem.

Like the "it" factor by Jason Moffat. Like the miracle supplement by Mark Joyner. (These were the two emails I read, uncharacteristically) today.

And, if you buy the solutions (that you won't have time to digest given that you already have 47 solutions that you don't have time to read, watch, listen to, implement) you are out of money, and go deeper into the hole and into hopelessness.

If you don't buy the solution, it gnaws at you until you buy it, or do something to get rid of the "parasite" that attached itself to your gut.

It is not an accident that I am using this parasite analogy: I have two cats that occasionally get a parasite until I rid them off it.

Their behavior is very similar to the behavior these sales practices create in you: craving. Craving something you don't need, only the parasite needs.

When my cats have the parasites, they eat like machines, they yowl all day for more food... food they don't need. Only the paraside nudges them to get more food so the parasite can get bigger, fatter, multipy, and eventually destroy its host.

After I spent my rent money repeatedly, I was out of the game for almost two years... had not money, wasn't in the market to buy every shiny object.

It didn't quite kill me, but almost. I watched the parasite "almost" entering my system today... I caught it, in just a nick of time.

But the real cost is: seeing the solution outside of myself, I stop generating my own actions, and look for the power outside of myself.

When I look at periods in my life when I was successful, I always generated the solutions from within, instead of wasting time researching, learning, etc.

When I was an architect, I looked at the terrain, I looked at the specs, and designed a winning building.

When I was a magazine publisher, I wrote an article from what I knew, designed an ad for an advertiser from what I knew... and life was working, money was coming in, no time was wasted.

When I was coaching someone, when I listened keenly, the solution was there, in the speaking of the client: I didn't have to waste time researching.

When I had money making projects in marketing, I just did it... and tweaked it from what was in front of me.

When I wanted to write an article, I wrote an article... no research, no looking for the power outside of myself.

But when I bought products, and courses, and software: I suddenly assigned magical powers to that piece of stuff and guess what I gave up at the same time? Looking for the power from within, that is the key to actual implementation.

Now, of course, it is important to learn. But the rule I learned along the way has been a winning one: you need a little bit of information, and a lot of implementing, if you want to be successful.

Most people reverse this, and never get out of the gate. And savvy operators, marketers, pry on you when you do that.

I got a taste of that today.

Rob Toth's Dear Employee Reports and Bday Promo

Here's an overused model in internet marketing: (this is a version of Frank Kern's Hometown Boy Makes Good): Hero makes a lot of money. Hero then sells a book explaining how they made a lot of money.

Now, I have no problems with the above as long as:

  1. The person did, in fact, create the results BEFORE they started selling how-to information.
  2. and

  3. The information they provide is useful and actionable.

rob tothdear employee28th birthday promotraffic courseThe core of the offer is 4 reports where he explains online income models, presents some of his own philosophies (some new, some bold, some just puts a different spin on what I've read elsewhere), and he shares some of the ways he made quick cash in the past. Plus plenty more.

I've read his reports. They're well written and he doesn't skimp on content... trust me, he is crazy, gives too much for too little.

He also added video tutorials directly in some of the reports to further explore his ideas.

The 4 reports I'm talking about are:

  1. "Dear Employee, Your Job Sucks: Create New Income Streams Through Automated Marketing Without Quitting Your Job ... Yet!"
  2. "Freelancing: The Real Work At Home Job Opportunity ... Trade Your Time and Skills For a Paycheck Working From Home"
  3. "Ridiculous Income Goals... And How Others Are Turning Them Into Reality"
  4. and

  5. "My Quick Money Ideas That Worked: What I Did To Pay Off A $1200 Loan In 36 Hours, Finance A $2700 Event In 3 Weeks and Earn $331 For 2 Hours of Work"

Rob has hundreds of testimonials from his readers, many of them are on his page. I know marketers that recommend his stuff, which is quite rare, because he is a competition. He has been a guest experton many guru calls.

He's quite an authority, and if his Canadian accent doesn't drive you up the wall :-), he is worth listening to. The accent bothers me, but the stuff is good... so I chose to put up with the accent.

By the way, when I first heard him speak, I was very surprised. He has a voice very firm and authoritative in writing, and in person he sounds like a pussycat... but I think it is only because of the accent... Anyway, I am very partial to him, he was born in Hungary like myself... so that makes me both more critical and more tolerant... wow, this came out quite complicated... darn.

Oh, and he did make his money before he started selling these reports. :-)

I recommend his stuff.

The Birthday Sale package also includes his traffic course which sells for a lot more than the price of his bd package... and then he has bonuses too, so he is giving a lot away... I guess you don't celebrate your birthday shabby if you make a ton of money, right?

Oh, he asks $8 for all this. Honestly I would have bought it for more, it is good stuff. Worth a few hundred bucks, if you ask me.

Here's the page:

This is a limited time offer.