No One CAN Do It FOR You… And Even if They Could…

Most “do-it-for-you” programs don’t work. Why? Are they bad? Are they fakes, thieves, or is there something in our design as human beings that prevents us from taking advantage of these opportunities. This is what this article is about. Surprising. Documented. True.

No One CAN Do Anything FOR You… And Even if They Could…

Surprising title, isn’t it? Especially from an Internet Marketer and Coach. After all, the best product to sell is something that you do for them, right?

Yes and no.

Everyone hopes that what they need can and will be done for them. So, as an Internet Marketer I can make a buttload of cash by promising that.

But here is the kicker: No one really appreciates what they get ready. Why? Are they unappreciative? Do they lack the genes for appreciation? Do they have the habit of it?

No.

If we take what Kabbalah* says about how it all works, especially what is the inner motivator of every human being: to develop one’s Self to the fullest in a lifetime by correcting the areas where they fall short from fully being their divine (giving) nature… every time someone does something FOR you, they rob you of the opportunity to do it for your Self… because the thing looks done.

Last year I participated in a cca. 6-month program that had two parts in it: 1. it promised to wipe away all negativity in my nature 2. it promised to teach me to live consistently with this cleaned divine vehicle of myself, so now that it is not hindered by the negativity, it can become a super boosted accomplishing machine bringing me riches, happiness, relationship bliss, a thin and supple body, bountiful energy, fame, fortune, whatever your heart desires.

I went into this program with a mixture of doubt, suspicion, and hope in my heart. I wanted the program mostly to get rid of the anxiety attacks, the feelings of inferiority and worthlessness that enveloped me like a dark cloud.

I wanted to experience being worthy of living on this beautiful planet, worthy to contribute to people, and worthy of happiness… all of which have eluded me in the past.

I had weekly conversations with six of the other participants for whom I was like a mentor. I gained insights I hadn’t had, into what people wanted most.

I saw that people wanted their spiritual work done for them. They were willing to do hocus pocus, some mechanical self protection like visualization, affirmations, but not their spiritual work.

Spiritual work is being willing to face what is dark about you, confront it, and attempt to restrict it and weed it out of your nature.

No one can do it for you. People can be there to listen, to support you while you are doing it, but can’t do the digging.

It is similar to digging for gold: you need to remove a lot of dirt. And while you are doing that, it is a good idea to have someone hold the dirt, so that you can concentrate your efforts on removing new dirt, not the same one over and over again. When you ruminate in your head, engaging in monologue, what you are doing is turning over the same dirt… that is why having someone to listen actively, so you can get to new dirt is so important.

I had two psychologists do psychoanalysis with me. The only thing they had in common was that the therapy was expensive and totally worthless. They made no input and I came to no conclusion: it was like I played with my poo-poo for years… and I also paid for it with real money.

On the other hand, in a program I took over a weekend some years ago, in a “paired” exercise, I could glimpse at something like gold, right underneath the darkness… and I never needed therapy again. The difference was that the other of the pair listened with the intention to reveal something, and so I did. What I revealed set me free in a big way.

But first it appalled me, disgusted me, mortified me… but ultimately it set me free.

Anyway, let’s get back to the question, why wouldn’t you appreciate what is done for you.

Your soul doesn’t like handouts. Your soul doesn’t want to just receive. Your soul want to live consistent with its divine nature, and therefore it will refuse any deal that is about receiving only.

Also, your soul is interested in experiencing, good and bad, bitter and sweet, painful and blissful, failure and success, and would rather not have any of it handed to it on a silver platter.

Your soul wants to work on its correction through those experiences. Everything else feels like “bread of shame” that it didn’t earn.

And even when your ego wants it done for it, the soul with make you sabotage it, and you’ll lose that gain that the “gift” has bought you. Just look at lottery millionaires… without exception they lose it all.

Now you have it. That is why no one can do it for you.

But one could offer doing it WITH you, supporting through the stops, the barriers, the hurdles, every step of the way.

This is what I am about. I have overcome more hurdles than most, and know how to overcome them, allowing your soul to do its work. That is what’s special about me.

Don’t misunderstand me, me ego wants to give it to you and move to the next chomp… but my soul won’t let me. Thank G-d. This way you have someone to support you to get everything you ever wanted.

Including Internet Marketing Success.

Mastermind Groups, Brainstorming, Mindmapping

I did an internet marketing webinar that was a whole weekend with Socrates Socratous this past weekend. It asked a usual question differently and — surprise — the answer was different.

Socrates is a great teacher. In addition to the great content, what’s great about his webinars is that he allows the participants to brainstorm, so it is a natural continuation of things to form a mastermind group.

We had our first session, a conference call, and it was very useful to see where everyone is at.

One of the questions came up how can someone send people to another website through a redirect link instead of an affiliate link. The best free solution I have ever seen is at http://www.sophieslist.com/redirectvideo

It’s a site with about 48 videos that include this one, how to redirect without every revealing the affiliate link. I am a member on a lot of sites that offer how-to videos, but this is far the best, and it is free. I use it, refer to it all the time… and I’ve been a member for almost two years… but you forget things, so it is good that it’s there.

Another resource that I find invaluable and would not cancel if I had to eat beans and rice for a week is Jim Edwards’ membership site, at http://www.sophieslist.com/netr

It will be mandatory for anyone in my coaching/apprentice/incubator program to subscribe to that… a lot of what you need to build a successful and very profitable information business is there, in a clear, concise, visual way. Jim Edwards is the special marketing teacher who doesn’t believe in giving useful but incomplete information like most others. That’s why I stick with him, and that’s why I want to use his material to train others with.

His latest webinar was on brainstorming and it was the best in that topic. And it was effective: I have started to use the tools I have, and now I can see that I can launch this incubator program very soon… whereas without using the brainstorming tools I have been quite stuck… :-(

Internet Marketing Kindergarten

I posted a “note” on my facebook profile today… on the universal law, The Law of Process, that is dismissed by millions of wannabees… and that may be the most important insight I have ever had with regards to why people don’t act in spite of their lofty dreams.

And then later today I heard Jim Edwards’ inspired rant about the same thing… using his own going-to-the-gym as an example of how one can actually take action on what they want… in his case, go to the gym and work out, seriously.

And I also heard his resigned “ehh” off camera at the end of the video.

We, coaches, all feel that way. We want you to succeed… we can take you to the water, but we can’t force you to drink.. And, it seems, you don’t, even though, you say, you are thirsty….

So my note, and my planned Internet Kindergarten may be a solution for some… I won’t kid myself that it is for everyone… but for the ones that if you put their snout into the water, they wake up, they say “water” and start drinking it…

Are you one of them?

Send me an email at mavencentral-339076@autocontactor.com
to get yourself on my notification list.

It will be fun.

Internet Marketing Beginnings

I had an inspiration this morning: I woke up early. I made myself a cup of tea, went back to bed, and read a little.

About an hour later I woke up from a dream of writing THIS article. Here it is, just the way it came to me in my dream:

Each great thing that was ever built started with something that had the greatness, as a potential only.

Most didn’t look like the start of something great. Many times it was a comedy of errors and their correction that took someone to something big.

But, you say, we are always told to create with the big picture in mind… Oh yes, that one. I know that well. The misunderstanding of that notion has robbed me of many successes…

The misunderstanding of that principle has rendered me undecisive, unresponsive, tentative, or jumping from one sure thing to another.

Imagine if the tree thought that every seed it is producing must become a big tree… it would be so afraid of living, it would start to shrink and refuse to go to seed. The prospect of so many wasted seeds would kill the tree’s aliveness and creativity.

No, greatness is a potential, dormant in every little seed, and with enough great little seeds produced, one of them may become a big tree…

Let’s look at MY story.

Back in 1988 I found myself unemployed from architecture, and unemployable at the same time… don’t ask me why, I won’t tell.

I was spending quite a few months depressed, going to self help programs, 12-step, Werner Erhard and Associates, etc. … barely having 3-day worth of work a month to live on.

I couldn’t think of anything to do… I was too entrenched in being an architect. At some point, I did an exercise from the “What Color Is Your Parachute” and found that what I wanted to do, that caused me pleasure, is “put ink on paper and communicate.”

I took it literally at the time, and thought advertising or publishing.

I didn’t know much of either.

I went and apprenticed (free) with a small printer for a while, and learned some stuff, bought a letter press with some letters, wrote advertising in mail order magazines… to sell some pyramid schemes… and then when I really needed some money to earn, I wrote a letter to the two throw-away magazines in my area, asking if they had a job opening for publisher’s apprentice.

One of them called and said that such a job didn’t exist but I could start selling advertising. No “draw” (salary), only commission. Does that put me closer to publishing, I asked, and the guy said yes. I took the job.

I was trained by another salesperson. We visited a few stores in my town–typical advertisers in that paper. We sold 5 small ads that day. I say “we”, but I think it was her. That day completed my training. Next day I walked back to the business area of my little town, and found that by the time I got there, the training salesperson had driven there and sold them, or attempted to. I had no wheels, and soon I had no hope.

I called the other magazine, and bragged that I had sold 7 ads my first week for their competitor… they were impressed. They gave me a 200 dollar advance, and a beat up car with a gas card.

I worked my butt off, sold ads, delivered magazines, partook in every office meeting, went to the printer, went to the typesetter, collected monies… two months later, I was put in charge of designing the ads and laying out the magazine. Two more months later I was offered a partnership in the magazine. Still, my best week I made $400… I didn’t have many good weeks.

I worked 20 hours a day 7 days a week… I was bossy, I was certain, I was “dynamic”, I was disrespectful… 5 months later I was offered the choice to resign, or… blackmail. I resigned. No-brainer.

That same evening I called all the advertisers in my care, the typesetting company and the printer with the same question: Would you take a chance on me for one issue? They all said yes, so next day there was a brand new magazine born, printed and delivered.

I made money with the first issue, and with every issue thereafter. More than $400 a week. :-)

That magazine, through the time, became 90-thousand circulation strong, and I published it for 11 years.

Now, there are two lessons in this story: 1. I first looked what it is that I love so much that I would do it for free (putting ink on paper and communicate) and 2. I was willing to fumble through phases that didn’t seem to go anywhere, and I was rewarded through small corrective steps, with a business I loved.

When I watch internet marketing, I see many thousands who never get started. They got attracted to the visions of greatness (millions of dollars) but are unable or unwilling to start where one needs to start in fear of starting at the wrong place.

I have had coaching clients that were so afraid of making the wrong move, that they never got started… that is until I made them do stuff…

I have had coaching clients that wanted to do internet marketing, but hated every aspect of it… and sucked at it too… of course.

I have had coaching clients that thought that without any skills they can make millions and they never actually learned anything…

Remember, childhood was to learn skills, without the significance. At least in most countries… of course, in the US kids must perform early on, sports are not skill builders, but opportunities to be big… which teaches us early on that we were supposed to be born with the skills we need, and if we weren’t, then we are doomed.

The same applies in business. You need to play first in the sandbox, and build some easy structures, without the significance. Write an article here, a blogpost there, a salesletter here, make a video there, copy and rewrite an ebook, just to practice the structure… Just to get a feel what you like to do. What you are good at.

Every guru you meet started that way.

My current favorite, Eben Pagan, wrote an ebook, full of typos, and that’s how he started his now 20 million dollars a year empire, 7 years ago. He wrote about something he knew something about: seduction. Something that he was personally very interested in… he desperately wanted companionship…

He has made it big. With a topic like that. He learned as he went. He had mentors, teachers, mastermind partners every step of the way. It wasn’t a straight path… not in the least.

You can do it too. Just start getting that every tree came from a seed sometimes as tiny as a pinhead, and then grew. It went through the phases… It didn’t come out a tree at once. It was a seedling for a long time.

Trojan On Wordpress Blog - How I Got Rid Of It

One of my blogs got hacked a week or so ago.

When I opened it a warning came up, that a Trojan (worm… not a virus… but just as annoying) was on my site…

I made a screen shot of some of the popup… I just needed the data… to search on google or on wordpress… or whereever.

screen shot of wordpress blog trojan popup

I didn’t find anything meaningful on the internet, so I decided to move the whole blog to another server. To my dismay, the popup warning me of the trojan was still there.

I decided that the trojan must be somewhere in my posts…

I searched all my posts, one by one, in “html” mode, and I found one instance of the trojan embedded in an iframe, and 7 instances of links to some gambling site.

I was searching for the word “iframe” and for the word “Noscript”

With that search I found all occurrences and now I have a healthy blog… though spent a few hours with moving and setting up on a new location… but all is well when it ends well.