What is the purpose of life?

magic mirror and other methods to keep yourself connected to your soulWhat is the purpose of life?

There are many schools of thought. I am most attracted to the paradigm of the holographic universe AND the very compatible older one: the kabbalistic world view.

Either there is a shift in consciousness all over, or I live in a bubble of such shift... because my students, my friends are all shifting... dramatically.

One friend/client/mastermind partner, we have been speaking at least once a week for over 15 years...  I have been sharing with him a lot as my world is shifting from atheism to the holographic universe, where there is intelligence, where things are not random and capricious... and until this past Sunday he listened curiously, but never from the inside... you know what I mean, like you look into a dungeon... but have no desire to enter it, neither as the person who gives, nor the one who gets the punishment... lol.

I call that mildly interested. The classic involvement of the hen in the making of a ham and eggs... I have always taken the pig's side... involved... invested, committed... completely.

This past Sunday he shared with me that someone had offered him to send over three angels who are traveling all over and need a new home to rest for three days. In return for the favor he can get three of his wished answered.

That immediately brought back the memory of this past Rosh Hashanah, with its choices of three wishes, sustenance, health, or the holy spirit...

He hungrily jumped on the opportunity to trade three days of his life for eternal bliss, or at least for a little courage.

I started writing this article three months ago, and now I am looking back at this, in amazement.

Since September, he has retired from his government job. He has taken control of a property he already owned, but didn't take responsibility for his ownership: and he is building a name for himself as the best landlord this side of the Mississipi.

Our conversations turned into search parties into his talents, and it is a ton of fun.

He may be able to accomplish his lifelong dream, becoming a millionaire in assets. Because, he sounds to me as if he had turned from sheepish to courageous: in just a few short months.

Now, figure that.

When and How You Should Argue with Your Coach?

This is important, and I hope everyone gets it.

As a coach, I often experience people taking my remarks as criticism, and are compelled to protect or defend themselves. I normally "fire them" as clients. Why? Because they are missing the point. And I am not about wasting my "Light" on black holes...

You hire a coach to point out what they can see from their point of view.

What is their point of view?

That is immaterial. The only thing that matters is that their point of view is not the same as yours, because their eyes (view... get it?) is not behind YOUR eyeballs.

When you are defending what you are doing, you are arguing for staying the same with the exact same results you have gotten thus far.

When you are willing, for a moment, to look and see what the other person is seeing, you are creating the possibility of a future, discontinuous from where your future has headed before this moment.

If my takeaway from this whole 8-week program that cost $1000 were ONLY that I should ask myself a question every time I set up an item on my todo list: "How is this going to make me money?" I would have gotten my money's worth. And more.

Often just asking this question will lead to multiples of that thousand bucks, and I have the opportunity to ask that question 4 times a day!

This is where millionaires are made, in these questions, and in the moments when a coach interferes with your "already always" way of looking at life and doing things.

Your job is to listen and look. And if you are a hotheaded Hungarian/Israeli/New Yorker, like me, you can curse under your breath, but look, nevertheless, and NEVER argue with a coach. It doesn't hurt them, it hurts YOU.

Merry Christmas.
Sophie

What Doesn't Make Sense in Internet Marketing Training

I am a coach. I coach internet marketing, I coach mindset... and I love it.

What I don't love is getting all the people that end up with me that got their start with other coaches... coaches that lack the most fundamental elements of teaching, attitudes , thinking, foundation, and actions steps.

I mean... after all they call it internet BUSINESS... so one could expect that some business know-how rubs off on these coaches... but it doesn't seem that way to me. At least when I look at their results: clueless students.

The latest evidence for the current marketing training culture I had last night when one of my students kept on griping why I would not coddle and nurture his inane, stupid, clumsy, poorly thought out, unproven attempts at product creation. Why I don't tell him "this is good and you could change this, or you could change that..." type of politically correct but mistaken and damaging way of teaching and leading someone to success.

When I learned (and later taught) architecture, the typical scenario was:

  1. you had an idea. you put it on paper and you brought it in for your twice a week consultation.
  2. the teacher looked at it, placed a semi-transparent sketching paper on top of it, and drew his "response" to your idea. Most of the time there seemed to be no connection: just that HIS idea was triggered by your idea.
  3. you went home, you draw the idea, to scale, on paper an brought it back to your next consultation.
  4. the teacher looked at it, placed a semi-transparent sketching paper on top of it, and drew his "response" to your idea. Most of the time there seemed to be no connection: just that HIS idea was triggered by your idea.
  5. you went home, you draw the idea, to scale, on paper an brought it back to your next consultation.

You did this for the next 20-25 times. Then it was time to finalize the plan, so he stopped getting triggered.

You got a grade. You went through this process about 10 times during your 5-year training. On the other end you came out as an architect. You wondered if you were talented or you had good teachers. But you found out soon enough. Your grades reflected your talent and your willingness to take correction very accurately.

I had an A- from all my design subjects. I became an award winning architect. Some of my friends had B's or even C's and their later achievements showed a consistent level... go figure.

Had the teacher told me: this is really good, just try to change this or that, I would have stayed in my own little world of puny. Never would have gone the 20+ incarnation of the same project, 200-300 during my studies. I would have become an "I can design one type of building, if you want that, come along." type of architect. Boring, and not very satisfying, not very profitable.

The architecture school I was studying at and later taught at had a success rate of 90 percent. Internet marketing programs, coaching programs, apprentice programs, etc. have a less than 5% success rate.

Do you think the teaching methodology has something to do with it? ... and the fact that ALL teachers at architecture school had to be successful working architects or they would lose their job?

Do you thing the selection process has something to do with it? To get into architecture school you needed to be better than 95% of the applicants: there were 20 people vying for every spot. My best friend got in only the second time around. She is a good architect, still working. Not great, but good.

Today I teach internet marketing the same way. the student has the idea, works it up, maybe records it, writes it, slides, mindmap, the whole nine yard. Then we meet on the internet and I do the equivalent of the sketch paper: I suggest a new way of doing the whole project. He goes home and does the whole thing again. Some whine that I didn't coddle them. Some get discouraged. But all learn. All... unless they don't have the mental toughness to stick it out.

A Marketing Story... for Christmas?

A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He
held up a sign which said: "I am blind, please help." There were only a
few coins in the hat.

A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped
them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote
some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would
see the new words.

Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to
the blind boy. That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to
see how things were. The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, "Were
you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?"

The man said, "I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a
different way." I wrote: "Today is a beautiful day but I cannot see it."

Both signs told people that the boy was blind. But the first sign simply
said the boy was blind. The second sign told people that they were so
lucky that they were not blind. Should we be surprised that the second
sign was more effective?

Moral of the Story: Be thankful for what you have. Be creative. Be
innovative. Think differently and positively.

When life gives you a 100 reasons to cry, show life that you have 1000
reasons to smile. Face your past without regret. Handle your present
with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear. Keep the faith
and drop the fear.

The most beautiful thing is to see a person smiling|
And even more beautiful is, knowing that you are the reason behind it!