Most "do-it-for-you" programs don't work. Why? Are they bad? Are they fakes, thieves, or is there something in our design as human beings that prevents us from taking advantage of these opportunities. This is what this article is about. Surprising. Documented. True.
No One CAN Do Anything FOR You... And Even if They Could...
Surprising title, isn't it? Especially from an Internet Marketer and Coach. After all, the best product to sell is something that you do for them, right?
Yes and no.
Everyone hopes that what they need can and will be done for them. So, as an Internet Marketer I can make a buttload of cash by promising that.
But here is the kicker: No one really appreciates what they get ready. Why? Are they unappreciative? Do they lack the genes for appreciation? Do they have the habit of it?
If we take what Kabbalah* says about how it all works, especially what is the inner motivator of every human being: to develop one's Self to the fullest in a lifetime by correcting the areas where they fall short from fully being their divine (giving) nature... every time someone does something FOR you, they rob you of the opportunity to do it for your Self... because the thing looks done.
Last year I participated in a cca. 6-month program that had two parts in it: 1. it promised to wipe away all negativity in my nature 2. it promised to teach me to live consistently with this cleaned divine vehicle of myself, so now that it is not hindered by the negativity, it can become a super boosted accomplishing machine bringing me riches, happiness, relationship bliss, a thin and supple body, bountiful energy, fame, fortune, whatever your heart desires.
I went into this program with a mixture of doubt, suspicion, and hope in my heart. I wanted the program mostly to get rid of the anxiety attacks, the feelings of inferiority and worthlessness that enveloped me like a dark cloud.
I wanted to experience being worthy of living on this beautiful planet, worthy to contribute to people, and worthy of happiness... all of which have eluded me in the past.
I had weekly conversations with six of the other participants for whom I was like a mentor. I gained insights I hadn't had, into what people wanted most.
I saw that people wanted their spiritual work done for them. They were willing to do hocus pocus, some mechanical self protection like visualization, affirmations, but not their spiritual work.
Spiritual work is being willing to face what is dark about you, confront it, and attempt to restrict it and weed it out of your nature.
No one can do it for you. People can be there to listen, to support you while you are doing it, but can't do the digging.
It is similar to digging for gold: you need to remove a lot of dirt. And while you are doing that, it is a good idea to have someone hold the dirt, so that you can concentrate your efforts on removing new dirt, not the same one over and over again. When you ruminate in your head, engaging in monologue, what you are doing is turning over the same dirt... that is why having someone to listen actively, so you can get to new dirt is so important.
I had two psychologists do psychoanalysis with me. The only thing they had in common was that the therapy was expensive and totally worthless. They made no input and I came to no conclusion: it was like I played with my poo-poo for years... and I also paid for it with real money.
On the other hand, in a program I took over a weekend some years ago, in a "paired" exercise, I could glimpse at something like gold, right underneath the darkness... and I never needed therapy again. The difference was that the other of the pair listened with the intention to reveal something, and so I did. What I revealed set me free in a big way.
But first it appalled me, disgusted me, mortified me... but ultimately it set me free.
Anyway, let's get back to the question, why wouldn't you appreciate what is done for you.
Your soul doesn't like handouts. Your soul doesn't want to just receive. Your soul want to live consistent with its divine nature, and therefore it will refuse any deal that is about receiving only.
Also, your soul is interested in experiencing, good and bad, bitter and sweet, painful and blissful, failure and success, and would rather not have any of it handed to it on a silver platter.
Your soul wants to work on its correction through those experiences. Everything else feels like "bread of shame" that it didn't earn.
And even when your ego wants it done for it, the soul with make you sabotage it, and you'll lose that gain that the "gift" has bought you. Just look at lottery millionaires... without exception they lose it all.
Now you have it. That is why no one can do it for you.
But one could offer doing it WITH you, supporting through the stops, the barriers, the hurdles, every step of the way.
This is what I am about. I have overcome more hurdles than most, and know how to overcome them, allowing your soul to do its work. That is what's special about me.
Don't misunderstand me, me ego wants to give it to you and move to the next chomp... but my soul won't let me. Thank G-d. This way you have someone to support you to get everything you ever wanted.
Including Internet Marketing Success.